They call me a twixter.

Look Ma, I’m a demographic! 

Twixters: the name that hasn’t quite picked up much attention to describe the 20-30 somethings who are – as they say – in the transition to adulthood, “betwixt and between” as author Lev Grossman states.

Time Magazine writes more, ” ‘They’re not just looking for a job,’ Arnett says. ‘They want something that’s more like a calling, that’s going to be an expression of their identity.’ Hedonistic nomads, the twixters may seem, but there’s a serious core of idealism in them. Twixters change jobs often, but they don’t all do it for the same reasons, and one twixter’s playful experimentation is another’s desperate hustling.”
 

You can read it here: “Grow Up? Not So Fast“

While I don’t ascribe to the lifestyle that is being identified by many of these young adults (eternal party mode, self-first love, willingness to postpone family commitments), I see it as the cultural phenomenon that it is. I am a part of the culture that wants gratification. That feels the need to leave something (relationship, home situation, church…) if it doesn’t satisfy, rather than stay the course. I want to feel “loved” at my job. I want to get a “loving” paycheck too.

Somewhere from my parents to me, the “grin and bear it” attitude got lost. Instead, there’s a “gimme more” mentality. It’s true. Ask Britney Spears.

Love the Right Way

I think it’s possible to love the wrong way. My intentions can show that I might put a limit on how far or how much love I might give. They can tell me if I’ve mistaken love for something else, or if I’ve ignored it for shameful reasons. That’s loving all wrong. But ”the lips of the righteous know what is acceptable” (Psalm 10:32).

Loving the right way doesn’t come with butterflies. It doesn’t come with an A+ or a round of applause. You don’t always get a feeling or a voice in the night. Loving the right way is patient, it’s righteous, godly, and it takes your whole being. Loving the right way takes practice. And it’s not easy. It speaks through everything you do. It brings you closer to God, to His glory, to His people. And it will always return.

1 Corinthians 13

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.

And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.

Charity sufferth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth (boasts) not itself, is not puffed up,

Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.

But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part, but then shall I know even as also I am known.

And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity. ~~~

The Divorce Generation – Newsweek

Rather than write a review, I wanted to link the Newsweek article following a highschool class of 1982 entitled “The Divorce Generation Grows Up.” It follows the adult alumnae of an LA school who went through their parent’s divorce during adolescence. It serves as a cultural commentary to the expectations that exist for our current generation of youth as they date and form beliefs regarding their own singleness, family, and concept of marriage. From my privileges working with youth, it hurts me to see the pain that many young men and women are going through because of divorce. The reasons are endless, but the growing prevelance of the divorce category does little to offer hope to those who want to fill the void of a family that has separated. The good news of Jesus’ love for us stretches out to them and speaks to their hearts even more so in times that seem to them so dark, and when love is most needed but unmet.